My absolute favorite thing to do for the holiday season every. single. year. is to drive around town with hot cocoa in my hand and look at Christmas lights! I have done this for TEN YEARS with my husband and this year will be no different. The most exciting aspect of the holiday season is the Christmas music that can bring so many joyful memories to my mind about the most wonderful time of year!
Just in time for the holiday season, we are introducing “Christmas” by Stephanie Madsen’s newest CD!!! It is an absolutely amazing collection of Christmas songs that will no doubt be one of the best additions to your holiday music collection. My favorite song is Christmas Eve. For me, I know this will be the only music coming out of our car speakers during our annual Christmas light viewing party.
The amount pure goodness in Stephanie’s voice, the soulful sound that comes through in every song and the compilation of smooth, upbeat and captivating songs that are family friendly approved (even my husband commented on how beautiful this music was). There’s no denying this woman is full of talent, grace and beauty in not only on the outside but the inside, too.
I am so blessed to be sharing a little more about Stephanie, a wife, mama and musician. She was kind enough to answer a few questions about her life as a wife and how this translates into her life as a musician as well:
What does your average day look like and what do you do for fun?
On a good day, you can generally find me reading the scriptures first thing in the morning. I am definitely not a morning person, but by making God the first priority in my day, I feel like He helps me get through my days with more grace, patience and laser-beam focus with the things on my “to do” list! I then do the “mom thing” and make sure my kids have eaten breakfast, packed lunches and gotten off to school. When the kids are in school, that is when I work on my music like a crazy person 🙂 I am also a music teacher to about 19 students. I have one specific non-work day a week where I focus extra hard on my family. It is a tricky balancing act when you decide to be a good mom, wife and have other dreams to discover and conquer- but I love my life! You can find me riding bikes with my family, reading stories with them on my bed, playing guitar, writing down lyric ideas or recording in my studio. Family and music is my life.
What do you feel are your strengths in your marriage?
I definitely have a good, keen sense on when there is a rift in my marriage which is helpful in preventing long term issues. I am able to then step in and make amends in the marriage as needed.
Have you ever felt like a failure as a wife?
Yes! I feel like a failure whenever I feel like I am not meeting expectations or being the “perfect” wife- the vision I have in my own head of who I should be. I know there is no such thing as a “perfect wife”- but I think as long as we know we are trying and working at being the best we can be, that is enough.
How has pursuing your passions in music shaped your marriage?
Before I met my husband I did quite a bit in the realm of music, he hadn’t seen that side of me until after we got married. Doing music has opened many doors in my life and therefore has given us more opportunity to thrive in our marriage. It has also given my husband the opportunity to see a different side of me, a side that I’m very passionate about 🙂 Being a musician does take away time that I would otherwise put toward my marriage but I do believe that if I am living out my dreams and trying to balance all areas of my life, I am much more likely to be a happier wife. The sacrifices we make for me to be a musician has done a tremendous amount of good for us!
In what ways does your spouse support you as a musician?
My husband is the best father my kids could ever have. He is so willing to be present in our little ones’ lives whenever I cannot be. He plays with them when I need to record in my studio, he puts them to bed if I’m “in the zone” and need another hour to complete a portion of a song ect. He’s the best and I couldn’t do any of this without him.
If you find yourself in a rut when it comes to marriage, what do you do to get yourself out of that rut?
Honestly, it comes down to two things: good communication and selflessness. Finding a quiet time to sit down and talk with my husband, uninterrupted by kids, is usually the place to start. When we both become more selfless, the problems resolve 🙂
What advice would you tell someone who is starting her journey as a wife?
I often find that selfishness is the root of most problems in a marriage and being in a marriage calls us to be selfless human beings. It’s very important to find balance in your marriage for one another and to agree on the importance of caring for one another!
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Letticia Vickner, Creator & Editor
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I have been married to Erik for nearly three years. Minimalism, coping mechanisms and trigger warnings are all a part of my daily life as I struggle through anxiety that began at a young age. I find myself reading novel after novel, ignoring the world around me while listening to a good podcast or having time to myself to recharge and reboot for what the world asks of me on a daily basis.