Oh, the life of a firewife, how glamorous it must be! I cannot tell you how many times I have heard this over the past 10 years. This assumption is far from true, rewarding yes, but definitely not glamorous. Long hours, and fighting fires for weeks on end comes with some perks and some struggles. Firefighters work hard and so do their wives.
Firefighters and their families endure many struggles, from missed holidays and birthdays, to a sporadic schedule, planning anything can be a major struggle. During the busy months fire–wives tend to wear many hats to keep the house going and the children happy. We go long stretches without even a hug from our firefighter, and our men can go weeks without seeing a glimpse of their families. As the wives we cook, clean, carpool, and all the other day to day tasks, all while in the back of our mind we are praying for our Firefighter’s safety.
The endless to do lists, and the loneliness can get a little stressful at times. All of the loneliness, the tears, and missed holidays are made worth it when we hear the joy and excitement in our husbands voice when he tells us about a call he went on. His smile, and the excitement of a child in his eyes, create a deep desire to support his passion. For most firefighters it is more than a job, it is a way of life, a dream come true and their life calling.
The community of firewise-wives has a unique bond, an understanding of each other that no one else can comprehend. We understand how we can cry from loneliness and still smile at the fact that our husband just saved another life. We are there to cry together, laugh together and celebrate all the milestones this journey has to offer.
Being a firewife hasn’t been easy. Marriage in and of itself is hard, it’s a constant choice to love one another, remain true and support each other. Loving a firefighter is a is hard, it’s complicated, it’s rewarding, it’s fun, and it’s exciting. Every morning I wake up and I make the choice to love my husband, all if him.
I wanted to leave you with a few links to books and websites that have helped me over the years. These have helped me find strength during the hardest times and have also enabled me to make friendships across the country with other fire-wives.
1) Firefighter Wife
2) I Love a Fire Fighter
3) The Fireman’s Wife
I hope you find some hope, strength and knowledge from these links. Please feel free to reach out to me. I would love to hear your story.
Happy Life, Happy Wife!
Caitlin Crete, Writing Contributor
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I’m a wife to my amazing husband and our two crazy and wild boys. I am a fire wife, a catholic wife, and a mom. I am passionate about health and self-care. I’ve struggled with postpartum depression and anxiety. As wives, we are often the backbones of our families, the do everything person, but we can’t forget who we are deep down.